In the cheating and leaving space, however, let’s keep it simple. This is because clients, especially women, often struggle with identifying the ‘not so obvious’ needs such as ambition or mindfulness of personal well-being. Normally when I talk to a client and they cite these very basic needs, I tell them to go deeper. And no, I will not bother to ask you what your needs are since I already know that they include honesty, faithfulness, and integrity. You have needs and they are not being met. Staying in a situation that has you questioning your confidence with a husband that questioned your legitimacy as a physical, intellectual and/or emotional partner will do nothing to improve it. Statistic: 91% of women who have been cheated on by their husband, noted a void that he had.Ĭomment: In other words, these 91% of infidelity victims saw a void in their husband but decided to remain faithful and try to work things out. What’s more, you will find yourself wanting to be the person that could fill their void and that will drive you crazy. The truth is, there may not have been a rational void and, even if there was one, simple communication could have prevented the infidelity. Staying with a cheater continues this feeling since they already decided to fill a void that you, purportedly could not fill and you will continually wonder if and when it will happen again. When you are cheated on, it is natural, though not warranted, to feel inadequate. The impact on ones confidence, however, can have the longest, most harmful, effects. Your confidence will dwindle or remain stagnant. Being cheated on is devastating, there are no ifs, ands, or buts, about it. Want proof? How many men are repeat cheaters regardless of the vengeful response from the scorned? Exactly! Second, if the next time is with someone else, he will not draw the conclusion that all women would have the same reaction. First of all, if there is a next time with her, she taught him nothing except that he should conceal the cheating a little better going forward. It is for these reasons that he’ll think next time before he cheats? Uh, a bit of flawed logic I’ll say. If you know the song, there are lines like “carved my name into his leather seats” and “I slashed a hole in all four tires”, implying of course, that she did a number on his car. When I hear Carrie Underwood sing “maybe next time he’ll think before he cheats”, it strikes me as true only if she leaves him after the cheating. Let’s walk through the 6 reasons that a wife should ALWAYS leave a cheating husband. Now where was I? Oh yeah, cheating and leaving. I also wish that I could make $1,000,000 an article so I could rub shoulders with the right side of the sand on my own private beach. This is my view and I do not pretend that others see it the same. The words cheating and leaving go easy like warm butter on toast. In case you have the slightest bit of interest, I don’t mind sharing with you that this is the 700th article I have written as a relationship coach. I would be remiss in noting that it’s also been one of the easiest. Unfortunately, so has the line, “I’ll give you one more chance” as said to a cheating husband from a wounded wife. They’ve been cited, quoted, and repeated time and time again. These are all classic lines from various pop culture references.
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